A Milestone

Today is a milestone for me. Our lives are marked with many milestones, some good and others are not so good but they help us keep track of time by using these events as markers. It is these weddings, birthdays and other events that also define who we are.

Today is the 20 year anniversary to one of the darkest parts of my life when my late wife, Candy to most people, and our unborn child died very unexpectedly. It is something that happened I would not have wished on any individual no matter how much I may have disliked him or her. But out of those ashes of this past life rose a phoenix that represents who I am now, the individual I have become and actually like. I managed to come through that dark tunnel after a long and arduous trek. While I still, after all this time, miss Candy and her wit, there is no way I would give up what I presently have, although bittersweet, a comfortable life with wife and kids who define our family.

Today, I want to remember those friends and family who stuck with me through those dark and upsetting months, and they were many. Too many. I want to remember Candy for who she was and no longer dwell on what might have been. But mostly, I want to be thankful for what I have now, that being Mary, Michaila and Andrew, my family and friends. It is amazing what is more important after a life-changing event. So, while the date my invoke sorrow in our memories I believe it is now time to make this date, this anniversary, a dedication to those who make a difference in all our lives. I applaud each and every one of you. And most of all...

Thank you.